a little vday question

If you didn't know, it's valentine's day…you best be going to get some chocolate, either for your kids, your lover, or yourself.

Now that I've said that, here is this:

Around this time there is always a lot of talk about marriage and love and the glue that binds us all.  And here is where I've heard it said that couples should try to go to bed at the same time.

I guess I thought this was typical, but is it not? Do MOST couples NOT go to bed at the same time?

Off the top of my head I know of one couple that told me they go to bed at the same time no more than 2-3 times a year. That astounded me when I heard it, just because it was so different than Brent and me, as there are probably 2-3 times a year that we DON'T turn in at the same time.

But maybe I'm wrong, maybe we're the weird ones.

Some of our best conversations and fits of laughter have come from that time we have together when we slip into our jams, brush our teeth, and sometimes I even pop in my retainer. We both have put the day behind us and can just relax in one another's company. It seems strange to miss out on that time together. Sometimes if he is sleepy at nine because he ran 20 miles that day [I know this may not be a typical problem], I'll still crawl in next to him and we'll chat a minute and then I'll just read until it's lights out for me. And often when I was pregnant and exhausted, that role was reversed. But we were there, beside the other.

So my question: what is typical for you and your spouse?

And my follow up question: if you don't typically go to bed at the same time, how in the world do you warm your toes up enough to fall asleep?!


Anne S. said...

Nate and I are you with you, Kelsey! Eric & Carrie shared that advice with us while we were engaged, and it's been one of the best ways for us to stay on the same page. When it comes up in conversation with others, it does seem like we're the weird ones, but I'm ruined for any other way of falling asleep!

Hannah said...

we have always gone to bed at the same time (with a few exceptions of course). It just seems so natural and I don't understand how people don't go to bed at the same time each night. I feel like it's the perfect closure to the day and like I miss out on something wonderful if we don't.

Brent said...

For some reason, warm socks or even toe warmers sound like a beautiful gift idea for my valentine this year...

Kali said...

Rice bag, Brent! But we're right with you - best time of the day.

*carrie* said...

Choked a little when I read Anne's comment, because Eric and I hardly ever go to bed at the same time. He's such a night owl, and I have a hard time staying awake past 10/10:30.

AND Eric's not a snuggler. Boo!

See ya soon!