8.31.2015

Pictures


I know it's been radio silent on the ole blog lately. 
Sorry. 
LIFE! Softball season plus a new little part time job at my church have got me all sorts of busy and exhausted. Oh. And picture-taking! ;) I wanted to share a few recent shoots I've done because they've been so fun, and because FALL is coming up and everyone needs family photos in the fall. Check out my photography page here and scroll to bottom for more details on pricing etc. 

First up I have these three lovely sistas who wanted to surprise their mom with this photo session. She had taken pictures with her sisters in their wedding dresses, and always wanted her daughters to do the same, but the day of the last daughter's wedding they just couldn't make it happen. She was sure they wouldn't ever get the pictures. But this sneaky and beautiful trio went behind her back and for her birthday presented her with these photos. How fun is that?! 

Also, small fact, it was 5,000 degrees the evening we took these. 




Then it was time to take 3 year and 6 year pictures of my boys. :) As always, it proved an eventful hour, but as always their cuteness is TOO MUCH!







And believe it or not, I didn't even pose this next one….






And a month or more ago I took some pictures of these awesome siblings. I occasionally get to keep the littlest lady and she is as full of life as she appears! And I loved getting to take pictures of these farm kids on their stomping grounds.














 I have some other sessions to share with you, but that's a wrap for now! Let me know if you want to schedule something over the next couple of months.

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8.11.2015

saying goodbye




Tomorrow I'll write more about why I haven't written much lately, but today I need to write. I need to write for Grandma Pat. I need to write for my heart.  When my Grandma Schoon passed away five years ago, it was so cathartic for me to write THIS. So I wanted to write something now, after Grandma Pat passed away two weeks ago.

The morning she passed away, there was a man playing the piano down the hall. Brent's aunt thanked him, letting him know how much Grandma loved the piano, and soon he had wheeled the piano just outside her hospital room door. There he sat and played for two hours. I'm thankful she got to hear some music that day, due to that kind man's heart and gift. And now Brent wants to fully learn how to play the piano. We want tangible ways to hold on to her. But we can't. That's not realistic.

It still doesn't seem real in a lot of ways. At her visitation one of the granddaughters said, "I really thought she would outlive me!" And I think we all did. Last February I packed up the girls and a crockpot of soup and we buzzed over to Grandma Pat's house to wish her a happy 89th birthday. I asked her if she thought she would live to be "SO OLD!" and she laughed and dismissively waved her hand, "My land! No!" Brent's sister recently asked her how old she felt mentally, and she said, "Oh, probably 20." A few months ago Becks was playing with a toy and it rolled under a dresser. Grandma sprawled out on the floor, flat on her belly, and retrieved it. And so the fact that someone so vitally with us is now not with us is hard to comprehend.

With 10 of what was then 13 great grandkids [before Becks]

Ever since I started staying home three years ago, I really made a point of driving the twenty minutes to visit with her. And three things always happened when I entered her little yellow house on the corner: Grandma made me feel like we were the only thing on the agenda that day, the conversation and coffee were great, and I didn't ever quite want to leave.

I don't have a lifetime of memories with her like her grandkids have-- I only have eleven years-- but it didn't take long at all before she felt like family to me, because the instant Brent chose me, Grandma Pat trusted him wholeheartedly and chose me too.

It's funny because this past week I was able to talk with so many of the family members, and everyone felt like they had so much in common with Grandma Pat. I thought about that a lot, because we're all very different people. And I decided the reason: We all felt like we had so much in common with her because she learned about us, and she talked about things that interested us, and poured into things that we enjoyed simply because she enjoyed us. And that is a remarkable thing. That is a selfless thing. The family asked me to write her obituary, which I was honored to do. It was cathartic and tangible, and I knew she wouldn't have liked it because she wouldn't have wanted one at all. I sat down and wrote it quickly, not because her life wasn't meaningful, but because it was so meaningful and there was just so much to say.
Blythe LOVED playing with the dollhouse that Nini Pat's dad had built her when she was a girl

Grandma Pat and I always shared our love of books. On those little trips to her house I would bring a stack for her, and leave with a new stack from her endless shelves. The next trip we would swap back and discuss. She was up for any genre, any style of writing I threw at her. In return she introduced me to many books I may never have picked up, and one [East of Eden] made its way to my top five list. I now have her collection of Steinbeck books on my shelf, and I can't wait to share them with another book lover someday. The last book she loaned me was "Gone with the Wind." She couldn't believe I had never read it, and ensured me I would love it. She always said it was her favorite movie, too, as she thought the characters were wonderful and because Clark Gable was in it! I started it about a week or so before she died, and I am almost finished. I normally fly through the end of books, but I am savoring this one. Each page is like one last moment in my Grandma Pat book club, and knowing I can't discuss it with her when I finish will be one more step in grieving for me.

We didn't just discuss books, we also talked a lot about her childhood and all the history she experienced in her life. She was born in 1926, and I remember one morning asking her to share her experiences with me from the times when she learned about Pearl Harbor, JFK assassination, and 9/11. It was fascinating to think of living through each of those events. And, of course, she vividly recalled each one. [I wrote about her Pearl Harbor experience HERE]. I knew her vast memories were a treasure, and I wanted to collect them and write about them sometime. Somedays I took notes, somedays I recorded our conversations with a hand recorder, but most days I just kept asking questions and walked through her scrapbooks and photo albums with her. I am so grateful for these intentional conversations I had with her and the memories she entrusted to me. [I wrote only a couple stories: here and here.]


She was a bedrock in the family, and someone we all trusted explicitly with our secrets. One of her childhood friends once worked at the grocery store with her, and she always joked that if Pat were working in the front of the store and there was a fire, she wouldn't have gone to the back of the store to tell her friend about. She wasn't one to gossip, or share news that wasn't hers to share. This was another reason everyone felt at ease around her. We laughed when we were all together last week, wondering what untold secrets are buried with her.


In May she was healthy as always, down on her knees showing Becks how to put coins in her new piggy bank at her first birthday party. In mid June she was more tired than usual, and began feeling weak. Her blood counts were off. She had to go off of one of her meds. On July fourth, most of the grandkids were visiting, as well as most of the great grandkids. She didn't have as much energy as usual, but was still in the mix with everyone. By mid-July she was sleeping a lot, and still couldn't get her blood counts right. On July 24th, I got a text from Brent's dad saying it would be a good day to visit her. Brent decided to come, and we buzzed over with the girls. She was on the couch, and was clearly weak. It was the first time I'd seen her not look capable of making a meal for twenty people. We visited awhile, and then the hospital called and said it would be best if we brought her in. Joan and I helped her get ready, and her hairdresser came to cut her hair, because she hadn't been able to get to an appointment and she was not going to go to the hospital until that happened. I helped her back to the couch and gathered a few items for her to take. I asked if she wanted to bring a book with her, and she said no. I knew then it was nearing the end, even though it had just begun. Beck, Joan, and I helped her out the front door of her house for the last time. She passed away at the hospital six days later.


It was so fast. And it seemed so sudden for someone who had been so healthy her entire life. But she was 89. And she was ready. Grieving is such a hard process. It's so necessary and messy. I've read C.S. Lewis' "A Grief Observed" a couple of times, and he begins by saying, "No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. I am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid. The same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning. I keep swallowing." I kept thinking how selfish my grief was-- I wasn't sad for Grandma Pat, I was sad for me. I am sad for my girls. Lewis mentions the scripture that Paul wrote, "Do not mourn like those that have no hope," and reflects, "What St. Paul says can comfort only those who love God better than the dead, and the dead better than themselves." And in light of that, I mourn like one who has hope. Beautiful, life-giving, abundant hope. Hope that whispers to my soul, "It is well." My heart was heavy in saying goodbye to Grandma Pat, but it was also so very full. Full of all the good that she brought into my life. Full of all the memories. Full of all the games of dominoes she played with Blythe, and all the "coffee-milk" she poured for her. Full of all the songs she sang. Full of all the love she gave. Full of hope. Full of that blessed assurance that she is with our Savior now.


I don't know what heaven is fully like. But I know Jesus is there. I know all I will want to do is worship Him. I know I won't worry about running around and saying hi to all the people I miss in this life. I'll just want to be with Him. So I don't know that I'll see Grandma Pat again in heaven-- I don't know how that works, and I don't think it matters much. But I know that I'll see the God she loved and served while she was on this earth, and that is what truly matters. And so to honor her and who she has been to me, I will pour into my family and serve them and try to do it as selflessly as she did. But mostly I will tell them about the wonderful Lord their Great Nini Pat knew and loved.


All of the family after the funeral, minus three great grandkids and one grand-spouse


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7.28.2015

Jesus Calling for Little Ones: a book review

I'm getting some great feedback from THIS post last week regarding community. I'd still love to hear your thoughts regarding this. I'm trying to really soak up the last bit of summer with the girls and family before softball starts, so blogging has been a little lax. Sorry. If anyone cares ;) 


I have been a long time fan of my Jesus Calling devotional by Sarah Young, so I was excited when I had the opportunity to snag this copy of Jesus Calling for Little Ones for the girls. 

The "devotions" in this book are very brief, and include a very short verse. Just like in the devotion for adults, this is written as if Jesus is speaking directly to the kids. An example: "I know your every thought, every feeling, every hope and dream." This is a little confusing, even for Blythe. I previously had purchased the Jesus Calling for Kids devotional for my older nieces, and my sister said the same about it confusing them. However, that book had a little more "meat" to it than this one does. And that's really the only disappointing thing about this book-- I just wish it had more. 

However, it is very durable-- a board book, the illustrations are cute, and the devotions/lessons for the girls are straight from scripture, which I love. I like reading it to Becks especially. We also have the Jesus Calling Storybook Bible, and I really like it a lot. I don't think you can go wrong with anything Sarah Young produces, but this one is definitely for little ones, and I was thinking it would be good for Blythe too. 

A copy of this book was provided for me by BookLook Bloggers, but all opinions are my own. :) 


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