8.16.2013

my new nephew and a tutorial

He's here! 
He's here!
My newest nephew arrived Wednesday, August 14th.
His name is Wesley Paul.
I love him. 


And don't you just love how people say "arrived", like new babies just show up like a package you ordered from Amazon? Now having delivered my own child, I think that term is a bit flawed, as it does not *quite* include the fullness of bearing a child you carried around helped make for 9 months. 


But seriously, he is awesome and I haven't even met him yet. 
And my sister looks AMAZING, no? 

Wesley Paul, 
my first Carroll nephew,
my seventh overall nephew:
I love you intensely with a kind of "you're family!" love that you will one day understand. I pray for your little life-- that you will be healthy and love Jesus-- and I pray for your family that they will know how to love you well. 

I made Wesley's two older sister's name signs when they were born, and wanted to carry on the tradition. This time I had Pinterest, so I steered away from the traditional paint on canvas and got a little creative…and manlier, in my opinion. 


If you want to know how to do this, it's simple I promise. Either go to Pinterest and type in "string art", or follow these simple steps:

-Find a cool board you want to use. I had a piece of barn board that had a cool knot in the middle. I liked the unevenness of it. I scrubbed it clean, since it had been in an actual barn for many years, and then did a slight white wash over it. I didn't want it to truly look too white, so I kept it faint. 

- Then find a font you like. Type up the name and print it as big as you need it for your board. The thicker fonts will probably work better. 


- Buy some old nails for 50 cents from your local, family owned hardware store. You don't have one of these stores? I feel sad for you. Start nailing! I nailed about 1/2 inch to 1 inch apart, all around the letters. I really liked the look of the rusty nails with the barn board.



-Once all your nails are in snug, tear up the paper. You should be left with just an outline of the letters. 





- Now find a comfy spot, and get out your string. Then get to it! I discovered that it was best to go around the outline of the letter a couple of times before filling it in. Once you've done that, then the "secret", if there is such a thing, is just making a bunch of different paths from nail to nail, as many times as you like. Obviously the more you do this, the more filled in it will be. 


There were a couple of times I thought one nail when with a letter and it didn't and I had to retrace my steps [which is the outlining it first worked best], but otherwise it is fairly fail proof! 


I've seen it done with each letter being a different color, or using multi-colored string. Kali wanted one color, as this was an accent in his room…and because she is a one color kind of person. 






It really was a fun project, and I can't wait to see it up in Wesley's room. But more than that, I can't wait to see him! 


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8.13.2013

it doesn't hurt to ask

Growing up I often hid in my sister's fortitude. Because I was outgoing, didn't know a stranger, and all around what most people referred to as a "people person", I was able to conceal one of my lesser known inabilities.

Let me set up the scene for you:

A mother and her two daughters are out shopping for some back-to-school tennis shoes. Daughter number two notices hers are too tight and tells the mother, who is busy helping daughter number one.

"Go ask the salesperson to get you the next size up," Mother directs.

Daughter number two freezes. She can't do it. She busies herself with laces and tongues until her mom asks for her.

Later that same day the trio is at a burger joint. They sit down with their meal and the second daughter notices that her burger is not the one she ordered. She points this out.

"Just go up to the counter and tell them you ordered the one with bacon," Mother says, fishing the receipt out.

"But…I…ohh…it's fine. I'll just eat this one."

"Oh geez. Here I'll do it!" And sister number one storms to the counter and returns with a fresh burger WITH bacon, thank you, very much.

And so it went. I was totally incapacitated by the task of returning a wrong order or asking a salesperson for help or, heaven help us all if I had to schedule a doctor's appointment or something!

When I was in college I found my soul mate: a girl named Renae who was the oldest of 5 and who, rumor has it, made a sales lady once cry. I squeezed into her shadow perfectly. She made appointments for me while I earned my Bachelor's degree.

It's so strange, really, because I really do love people. Conversation comes so easily to me I can talk to a wall given the right opportunity. But these situations? They would make my skin crawl.

And then I got married and moved to a strange place where I knew no one. I had to man up. I had to put my fears aside. I had to make appointments and returns, and when I cut the watermelon in half and it was almost white, I had to be the one to take it back to the story and demand my hard earned money back.

I can still clearly remember my mom saying, "It doesn't hurt to ask." So I had to grow up, put on my big girl pants, and march things up to the counter and ask for things myself. I don't complain and I'm not rude, and I've learned that most of the time it is a very painless experience…and I may even get a free dessert thrown in!

I thought of this today when I got my cell phone bell. I had gone over on data usage. This is strange for me because I usually hardly use more than 50% of my allotment. We had been on vacation though, so I knew it would be a little higher, but when I got a text saying I was at 95% of my allowed amount, I stopped getting online via my phone unless I was at home with wireless. And then I got a text that said I was at 100%! I was confused as to how this could happen, but there were two days left in the cycle so I strictly only used my phone for texting and calling [a novel idea, right?]. But then that bill came. I was at 305/300 MB for data. And they charged me $20 for the measly 5 I had gone over.

Now, if I had just not been paying attention and went over, so be it. But I had intentionally stopped using date to ensure I wouldn't go over. And then that voice in my head, "It doesn't hurt to ask." So while Blythe was busy eating lunch I called. The lady explained something about my phone and sleep mode and date etc etc. And then said, "I see you never go over. And you aren't over by much. And most people don't know about what I just explained. So I'll credit you the $20."

BOOM! $20 may not seem like much, but in that credit I finally had affirmation that I have, indeed, grown up.

If my mom or my sister or Renae would offer to make these calls for me, I would still let them. But I can do. I CAN do it. Who knew?

And I guess it is true: It doesn't hurt to ask.

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8.11.2013

that time again: BOOK REVIEW!


 My other book reviews:

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review of "Loving the Little Years"
review of "In Praise of Stay at Home Moms"  


Most of the books in this review were recommended to me in previous reviews I have posted. I LOVE good recommendations, so keep 'em coming. And if I don't love a book you love, or review it differently than you would have, it's all good: we all take our coffee a little differently too. I think that's why I love sharing coffee and books with people-- they are two things that can reveal a personality. 


Crooked Letter, Crooked Letter was a bit different than most books I gravitate towards, but it came recommended from someone that knows my taste. The book, set in Mississippi if you didn't guess ;), centers around two unlikely boyhood friends, Larry and Silas. But when tragedy struck the small town, and Larry was the last one seen with a now missing girl, their friendship broke. More than twenty years later we meet the characters: Larry lives an isolated life, always assumed but never found guilty of the girl's disappearance, and Silas returns to the town as a police officer. Another girl disappears and the two are finally drawn back to each other and must confront the past while trying to figure out the present. 

I don't typically read mysteries of any sort, but this one kept me interested and the suspense was intriguing. Set in the south, I knew there would be some dialect, and dialect writing seems to be tough to do well. Though I wasn't in love with the dialogue, it wasn't distracting. The characters were very well developed, which caused me to feel moments of disgrace, agony, fear, panic as I was feeling things for them. There were definitely some intense moments, as well as some language, and I didn't love how everything ended, but I appreciated that such a "messy" story didn't end "neatly." Overall I enjoyed reading it and it kept my interest. 

A few lines that stood out to me:
Despite the cold the boy wore threadbare jeans and a white shirt and his mother a blue dress the wind curved over her body. 

He started to run, afraid, not of the darkness coming, but of the anger scratching in his ribs. 



When Kelle Hampton gave birth to her second daughter, Nella, it did not take long for the doctor's to diagnose Down Syndrome. Bloom is the chronicle of her journey into a life she did not expect, but learns to love. 

The photography in this book is truly incredible, and adds volumes to the story of Nella's birth and first year of life. It was easy for me to get swept into the story, and there were moments it was very emotional to read. She wrote with honesty and vulnerability about her early grief, and I appreciated that. It's hard to write a critique on memoirs because it is simply someone else's story. I love memoirs, and I enjoyed this book quite a bit. But something was lacking a little for me. Hampton is a blogger, and I have read and enjoyed her blog from time to time. She has a fun writing voice that reads very conversationally that works well for a blog. But it was a bit much for a nearly 300 page book. That coupled with some, what I will call, theological differences made this book good not great, for me. It was a quick read, and easy to pick up and put down, and sometimes it is nice to have a book like that. 


This book!!! I actually have had several people recommend this to me and just never took the time to read it. But I'm so very glad I finally did. Unbroken is the story of a man named Louis Zamperini, a young Olympic athlete who was drawn into the second great war as a bombardier. After his aircraft goes down in the Pacific, he is left to fight for his life with little more than a raft, an entire set of broken ribs, and his fierce and spirited resolve. Sharks, starvation, and the beating sun prove to be the lesser of the evils he faces, as the Japanese "rescue" him from his peril, only to beat him down further as a prisoner of war. Goodreads summarizes what he faces: "Driven to the limits of endurance, Zamperini would answer desperation with ingenuity; suffering with hope, resolve, and humor; brutality with rebellion. He fate, whether triumph or tragedy, would be suspended on the fraying wire of his will." 

I started this book thinking it would be a bit of a labor to finish. I was soon proved wrong. I fell in love with Zamperini. I had a hard time putting the book down, because putting it down meant leaving Louie in some perilous situation-- the only way I could help him out was to keep turning pages. It got to the point I was taking the book everywhere I went: I would be pumping gas and hop back in the car to cram a few pages in before the pump clicked off, or I would read a paragraph or two while brushing my teeth. I took it to a wedding! [I didn't read it during the ceremony though]. I started reading it out loud to Brent just so I didn't feel bad not talking to him while we were in the car, and soon he was sucked into the story as well. 

Not only is it well written ["His features, which would later settle into pleasant collaboration, were growing at different rates, giving him a curious face that seemed designed by committee."], but it is one of those nonfiction stories that would make a horrible fictional novel because it would be too far fetched to believe.  I also love Zamperini's undeniable faith at the end of it all: "When he thought of his history, what resonated with him now was not all that he had suffered but the divine love that he believed had intervened to save him." It is long, and there are moments where it is so detailed that it gets a little heavy, but overall I would highly recommend this book, especially to anyone who has any interest at all in WWII.  


The Poisonwood Bible is the reason this review post has been so long in coming: I don't quite know how I feel about it. I'll start by saying: I'm glad I read this book. It is the story of a Southern Baptist Missionary family, led by the father, Nathan Price, that heads to the Congo in 1959. It is told from the perspective of the rest of the Price family: Nathan's wife, Orleanna, and his four daughters- Rachel, Leah, Adah, and Ruth May. 

I knew/know very little about the history of the Belgian Congo and all of its political turmoil, which made this book educational, but also hard to follow to a certain degree. I did like how Africa became its own character through the rich descriptions: "The trees are columns of slick, brindled bark like muscular animals overgrown beyond all reason. Every space is filled with life: delicate, poisonous frogs war-painted like skeletons, clutched in copulation, secreting their precious eggs onto dripping leaves. Vines strangling their own kin in the everlasting wrestle for sunlight…a choir of seedlings arching their necks out of rotted tree stumps, sucking life out of death. The forest eats itself and lives forever." The character development is also well done, and the interaction of different perspectives works well. Also it was interesting to read from a strictly American perspective in the beginning, and see it meld into an African perspective. 

The pacing was off for me, though. The book is told over three decades. It took me awhile to really feel invested [about half way, or so], and then right about that time it started to jump years rather quickly. I know Kingsolver had an agenda with this book, and I was disappointed in how she chose to portray missionary work [namely as self-seeking, bible-thumping idiots]. There was one "good" missionary in this book, who I liked, but kind of picked and chose what he accepted or rejected about the bible. 

I did appreciate the ways it made me think beyond my culture and life. One daughter, upon thinking of the stark difference between America and the Congo, says, "Why must some of us deliberate between brands of toothpaste, while others deliberate between damp dirt and bone dust to quiet the fire of an empty stomach lining? There is nothing about the United States I can really explain to this child of another world."  By the end of the book, I did feel invested in the Congolese, where "there's only two ages of people: babies that have to be carried, and people that stand up and fend for themselves. No in-between phase. No such thing as childhood." 

Like I said, I'm glad I read this book. It challenged me to think and it provided good writing and strong characters. However, by the end I felt beat up with Kingsolver's agenda and philosophies. In the afterward she said, "First a novel has to entertain-- that's the contract with the reader: you give me ten hours and I'll give you a reason to turn every page." I guess I didn't quite feel that with this book. But I also wouldn't NOT recommend it. If that makes any sense at all?! Sheesh. 


I am just realizing I never wrote a review after I read this book. Which is a CRYING shame, I tell ya. Because this book…oh this book…I get speechless just thinking about it. 
I am going to do a post soon enough about a few of my favorite books…and you can read about it then. Until then, go pick up a copy and figure out the beauty in the words, "Thou mayest…" 


I just asked my facebook friends for some recommendations…and a thousand book titles later, I think I'll have plenty to keep me busy through the rest of the year! But comment here, please! 

Have you read any of the books I mentioned? What did you think? [Please don't be afraid to disagree…remember, books and coffee!]
Have you read any outstanding literature lately? 

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8.07.2013

snappin'

I've snapped a few pics lately that I just have to share. 

I got to take Westen's big one year pictures, and his eyes are bluer than blue and his personality is sweet and sassy, just how I like 'em. 






 I really liked this one in color as well because, hello, his eyes, but in black and white his lips and that face…I just like it.




And then this little one year old's whole family was in town. And they are a good looking bunch. Including his new cousin, Gibson.





It's a shame this family can't produce any cute boys, isn't it?






Wyatt always likes to take some pictures too.





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8.01.2013

a new era


Pins and needles, I tell ya-- pins. and. needles. That is what I've been on waiting for Blythe to truly start walking. 

She took her first steps on Mother's Day this year because, well, she is the best kid ever and saved that little treat for me. 

That was May. And we assumed, since she was 14 months then, that walking would be right around the corner. And everyday came and went and we would coax her and she would take a few steps and then go right back to crawling and we just assumed that the corner to turn would appear the next day.

Or the next?

Or the next?

And then she was 16 months old, it was July, the shoes I had bought her 4 months ago so she could walk and run and play outside this summer no longer fit her, and I gave up. She can crawl forever. She WILL crawl forever. The Beatles song, "Let it Be" floated through my head.
 

And then, one day we were playing and she just stood up. Just made up her mind and right there with nothing to hold on to, stood up like an adult would [albeit maybe an adult that had had one too many drinks, but stood up none the less], and then she just took a few steps like it was the most normal thing ever. 

She went back and forth to crawling some, but I would remind her to "stand up and walk" and she usually would. And then each day she just crawled less and less.

I started putting her in dresses because they are hard to crawl in. [I'm terrible, I know.]

And then this morning she was just walking in circles around the living room laughing at herself and her new ability. Literally just walking in circles and smiling. And that is when I knew I could official say I have a walker on my hands. 

Yes, she is well on her way to 17 months old and I know most kids [your kid!] probably crossed this threshold when they were, like 8 months old, but for us it is now and it is awesome. I get so excited when I hear her feet stomp stomping behind me as she follows me into the next room. I love when she is about to topple over and waves her arms madly, throws out her belly for balance, and catches herself and keeps on walking. I love it. 



It will probably be different with my last child, but with my first, I am relishing every new stage. I love watching her grow and explore and try new things. I love watching her mind expand everyday to grasp a new concept or understand a new phrase. I love watching her eyes dart back and forth over my face as I try to teach her a new word or sound. 

And now I get to love watching her figure out how to stop being a quadruped. 

I know that she will be into more things and that she can now carry items from one room to another and my neatly organized stuff will be everywhere, but she is growing and changing and it is exciting. 

Sure, it makes her seem like less of a baby and there are moments of sadness when I realize her pudgy ankles will probably work themselves out. And sure, I look at her walking and I already think, "Sheesh! What is next? Driving a car?!" because seriously the time just flies. But mostly…mostly… I smile and watch her explore her newest trick and I see the pride in her eyes with each step, and I'm just so thankful for a healthy, happy, exploring toddler. 

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